As mentioned in the earlier "Ten on Tuesday" post, I believe we are knee deep in the terrible twos. I do think it is combination of several things that are contributing to this phase, but calling it the terrible two's just seems easiest.
Between school starting, sleeping issues, traveling, change in overall schedule and possibly talk of the new baby I think John is going through a tranistion phase right now. This includes testing boundaries, gaining independce and bravery and pushing buttons!
The majority of the time he is still my little angel and all he really wants his your attention. But then there are those moments of pure defiance that seem to overshadow the day and wear on my last nerve. I am making a strong conserted effort to maintain patience and a cool town of voice, but I have to admit that it is hard sometimes.
Time outs were working, but now he will go into the corner and talk and laugh and count. Does not seem to effect him anymore. Carl came up with something the other night in response to one of his bed time hitting fits that has really seem to make a breakthrough and is getting through to John. Taking toys away, and having to earn them back. He really responds to this and then when he earns it back he is so proud of himself.
Still a work in progress, but a step in the right direction.
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Thursday, September 23, 2010
Friday, May 7, 2010
26th month
The most memorable moments of this past month have probably been the development of attitude and fits. Fits and whining are in full effect! Unfortunately this also means that time outs are in full effect. Well, not all the time, we are still playing with different ways to calm the fits and/or avoid them all together. Some of the fits include hitting or yelling or outright defiance; those are fun. I realize this is just him learning/testing the limits, but man oh man does he know how to push our buttons!
One day he put himself in time out for hitting Daddy with a plastic golf club, it was pretty funny. Then he peeked around the corner and said "hi Daddy, sorry Daddy". Then of course he got to come out and play. Sometimes he has to stay in time out until he can say he is sorry, but he takes his sweet time. He will flat say "I can't say sorry" and stay in time out.
I try to remember these funny times and laugh about it, but I also pray every night for patience and strength, along with repeating "this too shall pass" several times a day.
A few other memories from this month:
- Favorite phrases: "I can't like it", "I don't want to go pee pee", "On your mark, get set, go", "I want to eat" (personal favorite, it warms my heart to see him eat a full meal), "Mama is a girl, John is a boy, Daddy is a boy"
- He asks for and remembers his friends can come over and play. At least 3 times a week he asks if someone is coming to play.
- he got his first little boy hair cut. I miss his long hair, and am trying to convince Daddy to let it grow back out.
- He can remember the most random things and tell you bits and pieces of the story. Like one day went to Grammy's office and she had a dinosaur book for him in the drawer. He will randomly say "Go to Gammy's office, get dido book and see chairs" Then he proceeds to talk about the horse statue that was outside of her window. It makes me think about how much he has been soaking in before I knew it and wonder if I was censoring his world enough?!?!
- Potty training is still 100% done on the poo-poo side, but still only about 90% on the pee pee side. He still dribbles and he will not consistently verbalize when he needs to go. We are staying strong and patient though. Today I am going to start a potty chart with stickers, if he goes a full week (maybe shorter at first) with sticker everyday then he gets a special toy/treat/activity. Actually these past 2 days have been really good, so maybe we have turned the corner.
- He will 'read' book to us now, I am going to try my darnedest to get this on video, but he always clams up when I bring it out.
- MUCH more social at the Little Gym and at play dates. He still is not totally comfortable if I have to leave the room, but no more tears or latching himself to my leg. I think maybe I am seeing a little bit of a sharing issue starting, but am trying to derail it before it starts. But, you know what, I am actually okay with this b/c at least he is being social and he has the opportunity to learn how to share.
One day he put himself in time out for hitting Daddy with a plastic golf club, it was pretty funny. Then he peeked around the corner and said "hi Daddy, sorry Daddy". Then of course he got to come out and play. Sometimes he has to stay in time out until he can say he is sorry, but he takes his sweet time. He will flat say "I can't say sorry" and stay in time out.
I try to remember these funny times and laugh about it, but I also pray every night for patience and strength, along with repeating "this too shall pass" several times a day.
A few other memories from this month:
- Favorite phrases: "I can't like it", "I don't want to go pee pee", "On your mark, get set, go", "I want to eat" (personal favorite, it warms my heart to see him eat a full meal), "Mama is a girl, John is a boy, Daddy is a boy"
- He asks for and remembers his friends can come over and play. At least 3 times a week he asks if someone is coming to play.
- he got his first little boy hair cut. I miss his long hair, and am trying to convince Daddy to let it grow back out.
- He can remember the most random things and tell you bits and pieces of the story. Like one day went to Grammy's office and she had a dinosaur book for him in the drawer. He will randomly say "Go to Gammy's office, get dido book and see chairs" Then he proceeds to talk about the horse statue that was outside of her window. It makes me think about how much he has been soaking in before I knew it and wonder if I was censoring his world enough?!?!
- Potty training is still 100% done on the poo-poo side, but still only about 90% on the pee pee side. He still dribbles and he will not consistently verbalize when he needs to go. We are staying strong and patient though. Today I am going to start a potty chart with stickers, if he goes a full week (maybe shorter at first) with sticker everyday then he gets a special toy/treat/activity. Actually these past 2 days have been really good, so maybe we have turned the corner.
- He will 'read' book to us now, I am going to try my darnedest to get this on video, but he always clams up when I bring it out.
- MUCH more social at the Little Gym and at play dates. He still is not totally comfortable if I have to leave the room, but no more tears or latching himself to my leg. I think maybe I am seeing a little bit of a sharing issue starting, but am trying to derail it before it starts. But, you know what, I am actually okay with this b/c at least he is being social and he has the opportunity to learn how to share.
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